Viewing entries posted in July 2015
Exposing the Myth of Therapy
What is therapy? Therapy is not a climb to the top of the mountain to seek advice from the sage. Therapy is always an experience and those who don't know this, (whether it is the client or the practitioner) often engage in the exchange of information without addressing the core issues. Therapy is a container. And by container we are not talking about the office or the physical setting. The container is the mind of the therapist. It is a place one can go to—to be received without judgment. The judgment I am talking about doesn't necessarily come in the form of moral disdain or overt rejection. Rather the judgment I am talking about is often cloaked behind a Ph.D. or training with thousand dollar words like “borderline,” or “narcissism,” or “depression.” With parents the judgment comes in the form of their worry, anxiety, frustration, disappointment or anger. These feelings are interpreted by the child as “I am a problem—I must be—otherwise my parent would not be so upset.”
How a Parent's Love is Blind
During the course of working with families, I am often asked to make an assessment and subsequent recommendations. These tasks happen on a small scale, like whether or not the child is ready for a certain privilege, or on a large scale, like whether or not the young adult child should return home or go to a transitional program.